There’s nothing I like more than embracing growth and looking back and thinking “man, I’m glad I have moved past that part of life”. I love how everything evolves when you stay open to learning.
Every step leads to the next, and I am grateful for all of the lessons of life. Instead of writing down resolutions this year, I want to look back on what was learned in 2017.
The first one is my favorite.
1. It’s Okay to Walk Away
It’s okay to walk away from good, or maybe even prestigious things. Doing so freed me up to make way for the great. Sometimes we get used to thinking of ourselves in a certain light or we get in a rhythm of things that make sense.
But sometimes those things are self-imposed distractions. We know we’ll get by being busy with something that fits, even though we know we could be doing something with a higher purpose.
Photo: RealHonestMom Blog
I walked away from travel writing altogether and lightened my freelance writing workload considerably. I was over-committed and stressed out and distracted when I was with my family. The joy of the work I was doing was no longer there, so I stepped back.
My pocket book was lighter, but the quality of life shot up. I used some of the extra time to volunteer at my sons’ schools one day a week, and it made me so happy. It’s okay to walk away.
2. Taking Control of Your Health Matters
My health took a toll since I was working so much, and I knew my lazy diet had a big effect on my anxiety and down moods.
I made the time to take better care of myself. I prayed for will power and a taste for foods that come more naturally to the Earth and I did Whole30 in August. No exercise, just big changes in nutrition.
It was a challenge, but it made a huge difference. I lost weight, but the true victory is in what it did for my overall mindset, moods and confidence (without which, #3 would not have happened).
To date, I’m still eating a whole foods diet most of the time with a net weight loss of 16 pounds and down 2 sizes.
3. It’s Okay to Dream as a Parent
This year found me at Business Boutique again, the lady business conference in Nashville, TN.
I went last year with a vision to expand on writing, which I did. But this year I went with a new idea and pushed through to file for an official tax id and business name.
Moms can dream. Photo: RealHonestMom Blog
In the thick of raising a young family I’m tempted to say “I’ll do this when the kids are grown, when we have more money, when when when…” But I want to get going now.
It feels slow as molasses some days, but by golly I feel alive when I dream and take the steps to get there. I am working with a business coach and slowly laying out the foundation, bit by bit. More on this soon!
4. You Should Teach What You Know
I have been through a lot in this life, we all have. And what I keep finding is that there is always someone else you can help with your hard-earned life experience.
The pains of my childhood gave me the drive to provide a functional and safe home for my kids to grow up in. Not a perfect household mind you, because that isn’t real. But one that is stable, efficient and carefree for a child to grow up in? That’s my bag, baby.
I learned so much through hard financial times. In those trials by fire, I learned about contentment, budgeting, mindful parenting and wanting to set my kids up to win at life through basic life skills.
There will be more on this in the very near future, so be sure and keep an eye on the RealHonestMom Facebook Page. (In the meantime, I’m available to work with people one-on-one in those areas on a consulting basis.)
5. It’s Okay to Be a Kid Again
Sometimes we get so busy being serious adults we forget to have fun. I can be a downright stick in the mud, but we splurged on front row Guns n Roses tickets on a school night and I danced and sang and for a few hours like it was 1990 all over again.
You know where you are??! Photo: RealHonestMom Blog
Say what you will, but my inner teenager goes nuts for hair bands. I don’t care how old and round we all might get, GNR will always be my love language.
You’re in the jungle baby! Photo: RealHonestMom Blog
I’m not sure what the exact mission was that night, but it was accomplished.
I also went indoor skydiving with my son in Pigeon Forge over the summer to liven things up a bit!
6. Nothing Beats Family and Ride-or-Die Friends
On a once-in-a-lifetime cheap round-trip plane ticket opportunity, I met one of my life’s dearest friends in Laughlin, NV for our December birthdays. (Laughlin is like mini Las Vegas with far less chaos and a retiree clientele. It was perfect.)
She gave me the surprise of my life when she revealed she flew my mom in to join us. Our moms have been old friends since before we were born and it was a blast of a time just being unapologetically us with old jokes and new memories.
Lifelong friends times two. Photo: RealHonestMom Blog
And a few weeks later, I made the annual trek to KS with the fam and we and got to spend special time with our extended family for Christmas. I didn’t open my laptop once.
A bit of a handful. Photo: RealHonestMom Blog
Some favorite moments: playing Giant UNO and the gag gift exchange game for adults. I ended up with an awesome Christmas Vacation snow globe. (affiliate links)
Shitter’s Full! Photo: RealHonestMom Blog
7. You Have to Run Your Own Race
It’s so easy to get caught up in the comparison trap. I do it, we all do it. Despite the blessings right in front of our faces we always seem to find greener grass elsewhere.
The key is recognizing it and knowing when to wave the white flag. I started feeling competitive with others in my industry on top of being so busy, and it’s simply not worth the stress.
You run your own race, and you have the power to put your foot down and say “no more”.
8. Be Mindful of Your Environment
Mindset is hard enough without shouting voices and noise. It’s important to curate your environment and remove unhealthy messages or people. The Unfollow feature on Facebook has been helping us love people from afar since 2014. Use it.
Doing so does not make you a snowflake, it makes you smart and you will not miss the noise. There are a lot of distractions that take us away from what we want, so take care of yourself here.
Stepping back and slowing down this year to truly see what was right in front of me paid off in droves. Not financially, but in quality of life. I have less in my pocket at the moment, but I’m more content than ever.
There are still things I want to achieve, but I got out of an unhealthy hamster wheel. I don’t regret stepping back in 2017 at all. Not one little bit.
I will step forward in 2018 with joy, impact and service leading the charge. Stay tuned!